Sunday, February 15, 2015

Dork Of The Day

Thats me!  I totally boffed my meetings today. It was Middletown ward conference and so I was there to meet with the ward mission leader. He actually is newly called and so this was training also. I sure encouraged him to have daily contact with the Elders and Sisters and the whole time I was thinking of Kieren and Gavin. I hope you reach out to your WML daily even if he doesn't contact you. 
So, I went down early for meeting since I remember going to their ward council early recently. Well.....duh, it's a new year and they changed times. So I was thee for Springboro which I went to a few weeks back. Don't I feel sheepish!  I contacted him to see if we could me before the block instead of after. Lucky for me he could so we had a good chat and I salvaged some of my dorkness. 
I went on the way back and since I had been to all meeting in Springboro plus the training, I was going to head home, but it kept coming to me to go to our sacrament meeting instead. So I did and after I got to talk to Alan and Kent Bartholomew who were in town with the Borgersons. Everyone gathered since their mom is going through a very aggressive cancer and is not given long to live. It was really nice to see them and see how they are doing. Alan has a girl about the age of Skjelse and Kieren when he was our home teacher. I told her about how you did his hair and all. She was so shy but you could see she never thought about doing that to her dad. I told her she should do his hair soon with bows and clips and all good things. I think she smiled a bit. 
Kieren, I thought of you today. A sister in Springboro was asked by the mission leader when the next transfers were. She sheepishly but defiantly said "I don't know."  What it turns out is on the next transfers she goes home and has been there for 8 months. She doesn't want to leave. She comes home the week before you. It reminded me again thee is a time and season for all things. A time to serve full time, and a time to end that service and take the next steps in life. 
This week we get to take Skjelse to the airport for her to go to Hadley's wedding. It will be so nice. Other than that I never see you Skjelse. Last time you and Jeff left just minutes before I got home. I was totally bummed out. 
Mom and I went to the temple Friday night. It was so wonderful. I caught again new insights into the whole plan of happiness. Amazing how I still keep getting insights after so many trips. Especially since I keep pondering on the same small portion of the garden of Eden and the choices made there. We got home late but no one had anything so we slept in some. 
Valentine's was great with mom. I made her breakfast. Not much really but I tried to include lots of things she likes and I made the toast heart shaped. I am so blessed to have her. Good thing it is eternally and not just in this life. I just need an infinite number of years with her. 
I saw Jesse Mueller today and he looks great. Growing back his hair but it's still really buzz cut short. 
Kieren, I loved the story of you and the tie tying lessons. I am so proud you could remember that. 
Gavin, we look forward to hearing all about your progress these past few weeks and your new companion. 
Love you all forever,
Dad
3 John 1:4

Sunday, February 8, 2015

What I Learned About Fishing

So we lost power most of the night and still did not have it as we left for church. So the morning was a bit different. I couldn't use the Internet to look up stuff like I usually do. And it was pretty cold but at least not frigid. 
While at Sunday School (mom taught again) we were talking over Luke and the calling of the Apostles. 

4 Now when he had left speaking, he said unto Simon, Launch out into the deep, and let down your nets for a draught.

5 And Simon answering said unto him, Master, we have toiled all the night, and have taken nothing: nevertheless at thy word I will let down the net.

6 And when they had this done, they inclosed a great multitude of fishes: and their net brake.

7 And they beckoned unto their partners, which were in the other ship, that they should come and help them. And they came, and filled both the ships, so that they began to sink.

8 When Simon Peter saw it, he fell down at Jesus’ knees, saying, Depart from me; for I am a sinful man, O Lord.

9 For he was astonished, and all that were with him, at the draught of the fishes which they had taken:

10 And so was also James, and John, the sons of Zebedee, which were partners with Simon. And Jesus said unto Simon, Fear not; from henceforth thou shalt catch men.
Luke 5:4-10

As others were making comments I was caught away thinking about this in a way I never have before. This applies so much to missionary work. When we share the good we have with those we know, love or just met. As they were "toiling all night" on their own, in their own way, they got little accomplished. Even thought they were "professionals" and knew much, they were relying on themselves. 
But, when they listened to the Lord, when they trusted Him, obeyed His commandments, and sought and followed His way, they had so much they could not handle it all. 
So it is with us, if we will trust Him, seek His input as to what we do, and follow His way, we will be overloaded with good and accomplish so much more than we could on our own. 

Saturday was a special day it's the day I got ready for Sunday. (Did you sing in your mind??!!)
We had a plan to help Joyce Ponder do most of here kitchen repair/countertop replacement but on Friday night we went to buy the cabinets she wanted and they did not have in stock the ones they indicated online. So since we have to wait 2-3 weeks for them we did not go over. So I had time to do things here. I started with repairing the Uncle Larry dash were I could not see the needles in the dark. The backlight would work but I could not see how fast I was going etc when it was dark. I had to go buy some new special bulbs after doing all sorts of testing, troubleshooting etc. I had torn apart the dash cluster to the bare bones. But while doing that I also was able to fix one other light that was not indicating right so it was a bonus. Then as I thought I had it all fixed I noticed now the tripometer and odometer were now. It working!  Aughhhhhh. I was so frustrated. But simple things can sometimes be the fix. After playing with the trip reset button a few times it's working again!  So all is good. 
Then I worked to cut down the bar table so it fit the bar stools we have. I carved away free hand with the chain saw and it actually worked pretty good. I got it bolted to be secure and leveled and it looks great. You would be proud of the size of the mess I made with wood chips. Mom was dismayed!  But alas, I knew it wasn't that bad. 

I then turned my attention to finishing the shelves in the old grill area so we could have all the AV easily stored. I even made the bottom shelf a roll out shelf!  I used all the leftovers from Joyce's kitchen tops and pieced together a few places. But had just barely enough for the main parts. Mom likes it and so do I. In the picture if you look close you can also see the new "home" for the FHE chart. 

After that mess I figured I better clean up so I went to work. I invited mom to help me sweep but before she made it out I decided to blow off all the shelves and other areas that were so coated in saw dust firm the last few projects. So when she came out she couldn't stay. So I finished up and decided to go the extra mile. Look at the picture!  Proof that we can fit two cars in the garage again for the first time in forever. 

I was so exhausted but was driven to clean. So I washed the Mountaineer and Uncle Larry and got all the road salt, grime and general winter gross off them. I just used buckets of water. It was around mid 40's so not bad. And they look so much healthier. 
It was a productive day. 
I hope you have had a productive week also. Joy comes from engaging in work that benefits others. 
Love you forever,
Dad
3 John 1:4

Sunday, February 1, 2015

Temples Are Amazing

Mom and I went Friday afternoon to the temple.  I continue to be pleased by the amount of learning that can take place even after I have been many times.  I am not sure how people an go once then don't go again for years.  I learn insights each time.  I learn often about the great plan, and why we are how, how it came to be, and why it was done the way it was.  I can't wait to be with Mom and learn all the rest that is still not filled in.  And then put it to work and create.  Is there anything better?!!
This week I traveled to Lebanon Mo.  I had to meet two people from China there that were gathering understanding on our projects.  I had to drive longer than usual since they were in St. Louis so I met them there, then a 2 1/2 hour drive to Lebanon plant.  It was a useful trip but two long days.  Wednesday we did not get tot he hotel until 12:30 and then Thursday I did not get home until about 10:30.  On the way home I did think it was funny that I talked to Brazil (Kieren's mission office) and then China (a person there we are trying to bring over to the US to work) within a couple hours of each other.  We live in such a smaller world than when I was young.
I learned a trick on math.  I showed Skjelse, Lys and Mom.   They were, um, OK.  But Ty loved it, go figure.  what is 5 X 5?  25.  What is 15 X 15, or 25 X 25, or 35 X 35, or etc.  Up until 95 X 95 you can figure it out in about 3 seconds.  For example 65 X 65 = 4225.  Simple.  The trick? It always ends in 25 (think the 5 X 5).  Then take the first number (6 in my example) and times that by the second "first" number plus 1.  So in my example 6 X (6+1) or 6 X 7 = 42.  Take those numbers, put the 25 behind it and 4225.  Or 45 X 45 = 4 X (4+1) = 2025.  Try it!
I hope you had a great fast Sunday.  We talked about it all week.  The FHE was on the fast, we had sections of Preach My Gospel study that were on the fast, and in general had lots about it all week.  It is a wonderful blessing.  I hope you remember to donate to help others around us.
Love you forever,
Dad
3 John 1:4

Sunday, January 25, 2015

The Power Of Personal Revelation

I was speaking in Springboro this week.  I had the topic of missionary work (which is awesome) and had written the missionaries form that ward.  It was really great as I shared 5 principles that all of us can use to be better in our lives, and with each I used a story or principle as taught by the letters I got form the Springboro missionaries (and you Gavin, I used some of your letters too!)
Well, as I listened to the other talks, they both focused on the atonement and while they were speaking, I had a flood of thoughts that opened my understanding more about the atonement.  Now you will see its a decent analogy, but for me it went deeper.  You know how when you REALLY learn by the spirit and it is spirit speaking to spirit?!
So here are my thoughts, as I hastily wrote them down trying to capture what i had been taught.

The master carpenter goes around building bridges. Amazing bridges. In fact many would post these on Instagram, or pin them to their wall they are so epic.





​ Whether it spans a small creek, or even just a dip in the terrain of a beautiful garden, or up to a vast canyon. In fact he completes a feat of engineering impossible to man's understanding. And this bridge makes the road seamless. It as if the canyon is not even there. Except for the unimaginable vistas that we view with awe as we travel along. All the time forgetting that we are crossing that deep canyon that before we thought uncrossable. And I the Lord remember them no more. I love to build and create things. I remember the exacting details of what I did, and always can look back with personal pride in what the finished work accomplished. After such masterful craftsmanship, and such a level of work we cannot comprehend, it is a wonder that He remembers that no more.In fact we can burn the bridge but by His amazing craftsmanship it is built again before we realize what is done. We look back and see the bridge we burned, but under the cover of flames he is rebuilding. Just like trick Candles that cannot go out. We cannot destroy what he is able to build. In fact His bridge is straight and narrow. How much easier can it be!In fact he builds the bridge in our life before we even know the canyon is there.  When we get to the canyon we can choose to cross the bridge or take the long and difficult path down the canyon.  Struggling along the way, slipping and falling, and in general making it much harder than it needs to be. But, even if we do choose to go down the canyon and we later get stuck, He is the rescue crew, always at the ready, with tools to extract us from even the most precarious settings. Even a hovering helicopter with rescue basket if needed. And he brings us back up to the bridge that was always there, always ready for us. And look at the view!  It is glorious. And the sunrise is better than ever. And yet the only thing that changed is our position, our view, our outlook. He, His bridge, and His creations didn't change.

As i talked with Mom about what I had learned, she thought of these two poems that I immediately likened to this concept.  The first referenced in a talk by Pres. Monson, and the 2nd we learned about from John Bytheway.

Will Allen Dromgoole “The Bridge Builder.”            
An old man, going a lone highway,            
Came at the evening, cold and gray,            
To a chasm, vast and deep and wide,            
Through which was flowing a sullen tide.            
The old man crossed in the twilight dim;            
The sullen stream had no fears for him;            
But he turned when safe on the other side            
And built a bridge to span the tide.                    

“Old man,” said a fellow pilgrim near,            
“You are wasting strength with building here;            
Your journey will end with the ending day;            
You never again must pass this way;            
You have crossed the chasm, deep and wide--            
Why build you the bridge at the eventide?”            
The builder lifted his old gray head:            
“Good friend, in the path I have come,” he said,                      
“There followeth after me today            
A youth whose feet must pass this way.            
This chasm that has been naught to me            
To that fair-haired youth may a pitfall be.            
He, too, must cross in the twilight dim;            
Good friend, I am building the bridge for him.”

THE AMBULANCE IN THE VALLEY
Joseph Malins
'Twas a dangerous cliff, as they freely confessed,
Though to walk near its crest was so pleasant;
But over its terrible edge there had slipped
A duke, and full many a peasant.
The people said something would have to be done,
But their projects did not at all tally.
Some said "Put a fence 'round the edge of the cliff,"
Some, "An ambulance down in the valley."
The lament of the crowd was profound and was loud,
As their tears overflowed with their pity;
But the cry for the ambulance carried the day
As it spread through the neighboring city.
A collection was made, to accumulate aid,
And the dwellers in highway and alley
Gave dollars and cents--not to furnish a fence--
But an ambulance down in the valley.
"For the cliff is all right if you're careful," they said;
"And, if folks ever slip and are dropping,
It isn't the slipping that hurts them so much
As the shock down below--when they're stopping."
So for years (we have heard), as these mishaps occurred
Quick forth would the rescuers sally,
To pick up the victims who fell from the cliff,
With the ambulance down in the valley.
Said one, in a plea, "It's a marvel to me
That you'd give so much greater attention
To repairing results than to curing the cause;
You had much better aim at prevention.
For the mischief, of course, should be stopped at its source;
Come, neighbors and friends, let us rally.
It is far better sense to rely on a fence
Than an ambulance down in the valley."
"He is wrong in his head," the majority said,
"He would end all our earnest endeavor.
He's a man who would shirk this responsible work,
But we will support it forever.
Aren't we picking up all, jut as fast as they fall,
And giving them care liberally?
A superfluous fence is of no consequence
If the ambulance works in the valley."
But a sensible few, who are practical too,
Will not bear with such nonsense much longer;
They believe that prevention is better than cure,
And their party will soon be much stronger.
Encourage them then, with your purse, voice and pen,
And while other philanthropists dally,
They will scorn all pretense and put up a stout fence
On the cliff that hangs over the valley.
Better guide well the young, than reclaim them when old,
For the voice of true wisdom is calling,
"To rescue the fallen is good, but 'tis best
To prevent other people from falling."
Better close up the source of temptation and crime
Than deliver from dungeon or galley
Better put a strong fence 'round the top of the cliff
Than an ambulance down in the valley.
So that is a lot to read this week so I won't go on much more.  Just contemplate where you stand.  This is a glorious life.  Its wonderful to be here with you.  So enjoy the vista as you cross any bridges in your life.  
Love you forever, Dad
3 John 1:4

Sunday, January 18, 2015

Small World

There is a new ward mission leader in Springboro. I have been trying to line up schedules with him for a number of weeks. We have not connected but today was their ward conference so we finally connected. It was great to see his enthusiasm and energy for the work of salvation. He is doing so many things I hardly had to train him on anything. He is already on the mark. He really has already #embark ed in the work there.  During our conversation it turned to where he served his mission because he saw my flag pin. So drum roll.........he says "southern Brazil."  So of course I have to ask more. And he says "Porto Alegre,.......South!"  Amazing small world. So Kieren, when you are home he really wants to get with you. Maybe we could have his family over. He named a few places in excitement but none seemed familiar from where you have been but who knows!
And Gavin, so many people today at church in Springboro asked about you and how you are doing. I told them how happy you were and how much you love all the interesting foods!  Kaitlin Carlisle gave her farewell talk also as she is heading out this week. And I heard of 3 other YW in just the last 24 hrs that have started their papers. It's amazing. 
As I have been pondering my talk this coming week I had two amazing experiences this week. Both times I heard things and immediately I was told to write them down, that they were given to me specifically for the talk. Very specifically. One was a radio story about a man who faced his fears and overcame challenges. He used something he coined "rejection therapy" and the other was a specific thing that Kaitlin said in her talk. Both of them help us see how we need to be better and sharing the light we have with others in normal and natural ways. So others can find the lasting peace that comes from the gospel of Jesus Christ. 
I have two stories as well from my two favorite missionaries!  Both of you have unknowingly shared experiences that fit so well. I even wrote to some missionaries serving from the Ward I will speak in and they shared experiences also. I hope it will make it personal for all the members there. 
I have a week long training this coming week with homework and tests each day. I didn't know of the tests when I got signed up!  This is week one of four during the year. It also includes a capstone project I have to complete for work. So this is like a graduate capstone seminar. It is all about lean. The effort to remove waste and make some effort, process, or product better and smarter for all. My charter is about training and removing confusion in our new product process for tons of users. Not just one group but many functional groups. It is intended to reduce time, expenses during the process, and our speed of bringing new things to market. I am doing it with a director of engineering in another group. He and I have been discussing similar things the past while so we are combining our efforts. 
Gavin, I love the belt you sent Ty. It's way cool. 
We got to see Skjelse and Jeff Friday. It was wonderful to hear about their holidays and travels. Ty was at a late night science Olympiad and Lys was at the temple. So we just ate dinner and then chatted for the evening. It was nice!  Then Saturday was Lys birthday and also just happened to be the stake dance. So it was her first. Guess who caught her for her very first dance?  ME!  It was so nice. I can't believe she is 14 already. 
I love your letters, texts and visits. Thanks for being my kids forever. I hope we can all do what is required to be able to cling to the covenants we have made and be together forever. 
Dad
3 John 1:4

Sunday, January 11, 2015

The Sabbath

This week brings again a witness that the commitment I have made to avoid work on the sabbath is the right thing. And that when you put the Lord first all other things will be put in their right place or go away in our lives. (Pres. Benson)  I have a major negotiation ongoing with a group of decisions that will affect me at work for many years to come. We have a big conference call tomorrow AM to go over the last parts and they have been the points of contention all along the way. We had prepared a proposal but needed a couple of Vice Presidents to review it and agree. This was supposed to be by Friday afternoon. But one did. It, then said they would do it late Friday. On Saturday it still was not done. So I could not send it off but needed to so we could try to resolve it tomorrow. I had to explain to the VP (my boss) that if needed I would get up at 12 and rework the material but I do not work on the sabbath. It showed me again that the right things are understood by others and they will support righteous choices. When she got that she understood "120%" and offered to do the work since she had delayed. So I don't have to work the sabbath but still am able to get the material we need to move ahead. Trust in the Lord with all thine heart........
I also believe I am seeing more of the evidence from a quote from Elder Zwick he gave at the BYUI commencement. "Obedience brings blessings, but exact obedience brings miracles."  Live your life in such a way, especially Kieren and Gavin right now, that you can expect miracles and trust they will come your way. With the pressures of business and the expectations that are pushed on everyday at work, I believe it's a Miracle that I am trusted, allowed to set my own limits, hold to my family and sacred time, and still be put in positions of trust, confidence, support, and in line for promotions and increased responsibilities (that are reasonable, I don't want too much so I can still have a family and church life). I am truly blessed. 
I got the rest of the fireplace mantel installed. Mom is really happy and I like it a lot. 

On Saturday I worked again on the stands for the patio table. After I had worked a couple of hours mom said again she only wanted one leg. I am not so sure of the stability, and could only think of ways that would cost us, but after brainstorming and trying a few things, look at what we came up with!  All natural, near free, and I think it is pretty cool. Just lots of carving with a chainsaw and the sawzall. 

I still have to finish the tile around the actual wood stove, I forgot that is not done. I have the tile cut but am working a way to install it so I can still remove it later. 

I have loved your letters, pictures, and all from each of you. 
Love you forever,
Dad
3 John 1:4

Sunday, January 4, 2015

No Rest For The Weary

This was supposed to be a nice big break, but as you know me it didn't quite turn out that way.  I spent nearly the whole week doing the fireplace and connected projects.  What started out as a simple replace the mantle has blossomed.  But it's looking good and almost done.




​​​This is a before and during.  Maybe I will remember to show the final when I get it all done with touch ups.

We cut out one of the bricks and then drilled the block behind it so we could run power and other AV cords behind the TV.  So now they are hidden and the AV cables run from there to where the old grill was.  So everything looks cleaner.  Mom likes it.  That was a challenge in and of itself.  It took nearly a day to get all that done.  The funniest part was when we were drilling through the old grill hood and Ty actually crawled inside the grill area, sat down, and worked.  It looked so weird to see him folded up like that.
Then I have been cutting, patching, sanding etc. everything so it looks like one piece of giant wood when it really is lots of pieces and trims.  Of course i ran out of crown for the last 59" and had to go to Lowe's to get more.  And surprise, they don't carry that same style any longer.  I ended up getting some MDF instead of pine and the overall dimension was very close, so it will work for now.  It was just frustrating.  That is why I always buy the job, plus anticipated jobs, plus some spare for projects.  So you have what you need and it matches.
Last night I was thinking about new year's resolutions.  Never been a big fan as I set goals all year long.  But as I thought about it I realized I had spent the last 3-4 weeks really updating our financial plan both for our budget for 2015, and all the way through to retirement.  We had to revise our health care situation and plan differently due to new health care laws.  I also have tried to set up new goals for the stake missionary work as well.  And my dentist says my gums are in danger zone so I better start flossing so I have done that better also.  I call it a good set of goals even if it is not all tied to new years.
I am speaking in Springboro later this month and sent an email to all the missionaries serving from there.  I am trying to gather thoughts from them to make it personal on Elder Ballard's talk and a specific quote.  If you have any stories I would love to have them!

Brothers and sisters, fear will be replaced with faith and confidence when members and the full-time missionaries kneel in prayer and ask the Lord to bless them with missionary opportunities. Then, we must demonstrate our faith and watch for opportunities to introduce the gospel of Jesus Christ to our Heavenly Father’s children, and surely those opportunities will come. These opportunities will never require a forced or a contrived response. They will flow as a natural result of our love for our brothers and sisters. Just be positive, and those whom you speak with will feel your love. They will never forget that feeling, though the timing may not be right for them to embrace the gospel. That too may change in the future when their circumstances change.

Kieren, did you firm up the date?

Gavin, around here the missionaries can go to the temple more frequently if they take a new convert to do baptisms for their own family names.  That is a goal on the new member record as well.  Is that the same for you?  I don't know how widespread that is yet.

Love you all forever.
Dad
3 John 1:4